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May & Frank's
Wedding Picture on February 14, 2010
I'm pushing 90, and life's still a blast!
with the 2 bears that brought us together.
How sweet it is!
March 6, 2011 Sunday Night
I always thought "gardening"
was an old folks' activity for those who had nothing better
to do. Well, I'm now
one of the old folks, and now that I am into it, I find that
"gardening" is a very, soul-satisfying activity. Over the
my sole crop was tomatoes. This year I have planted 3 citrus
trees, tomatoes, butternut and yellow squash, cauliflowers,
peppers, scallions, giant sunflowers, cabbage and potatoes.
Wife May has planted strawberries, watermelons and herbs.
On top of that I've dug out a large, yard-wide circle around
our birdbath for planting flowers. One of the most
activities is learning how to propagate new plants using
cuttings from "mother plants." I bought one beautiful rose
years ago, which has provided cutting for about 10 new ones.
The plant is very prolific, producing gorgeous pink flowers.
A spin-off to "gardening" is the
peace of mind it engenders. I love it when seeds sprout,
popping their tiny heads out of
the ground. God did a great engineering job when he injected
the Spark of Life into dead matter that provides us not only
with sustenance but also beauty when plants produce flowers,
then seeds and finally a brand new set of living things.
February 23, 2011 Wednesday 5 p.m.
Wife May and I went on a 20 mile
motorcycle ride yesterday afternoon in preparation for Bike
Week next week.
Went by the bikers' hangout, the Cabbage Patch, to check it
out but didn't socialize with the beer-drinkers sitting
at a picnic table - this time. I told her how proud I was of
her to have the guts to climb atop a 750 lb. motorcycle
driven by a 90 year-old man! That night I wrote this:
A Treasure Beyond Measure
I cuddle with my Babe –
I kiss her on her nose
And hold her tight.
What a glorious feeling!
With her chest pressed to
There’s only one word to
And that word is sublime.
But like everything else,
That’s good or bad,
It too must end,
And the end is always sad.
God, how I love my woman!
She’s the best part of my
How dreary life would be
Without my loving wife.
So, listen up, God,
I’m as grateful as can be
For the gift sent down from
That you graciously gave to
She’s a treasure beyond
She’s deep inside my heart,
Where she will be forever,
Till death do us part.
February 16, 2011 Wednesday Afternoon:
I have been invited by the Friends of the Ormond Beach
to participate in a Meet the Authors Bookfair and
Festival at the library
on Sunday March 13th from Noon to 3:00 P.M.
I will be at Booth 31, and will give a
free lollypop to those
who stop by for a chat.
[No purchase is necessary.]
TITLE OF MY SCREENPLAY
True Love Never Dies
WHAT IT'S ABOUT
This human-interest, drama/family movie is based on a true
story and contains
no blatant sex scenes, no violence and no profanity. The
protagonist is in every
scene, most of which are in the Daytona Beach, FL area:
Spec Script Logline
motorcycle-riding, racquetball-playing retired
wife dies unexpectedly, a psychopathic coffin-chaser
seduces, marries and tries
to kill him.
After jail, anger-management classes, a divorce, and
a cyberspace soul mate finds him, they marry, and struggle to
sell his screenplay.
January 26, 2011 Wednesday Afternoon
I think that atheists and agnostics
lack what this Biblical passage says we need to get. In
saying that, I wonder
if insight is something you can get,
or is there a gene that controls it? Or, as evidenced by my
story below,does it
depend upon circumstances? You be the judge.....
Get wisdom; get insight.
Do not forsake her,
and she will keep you;
The beginning of wisdom is
this: Get wisdom,
whatever you get, get insight.
Proverbs 4: 5-7
An Insightful, Mystical Experience
Where Are You?
is the story
life-time search for God.
search reached a climax when,
college student, I opened a 3-day old chick egg,
intently at the living embryo
atop the yolk, watched in awe as I saw
flowing through its transparent, undeveloped,
heart and blood vessels, suddenly realized
witnessing a miracle!
is it possible,” I asked himself,
in just a
matter of a few days,
chirping chick with soft down, a brain, heart,
bones, beak, legs, wings, eyes, and ears?”
“Who,” I wondered
“but God can do such
profound, lasting effect
I viewed the world.
I began to see God’s
especially in a child’s
the beautiful patterns
in a butterfly’s wings,
Caterpillar to chrysalis to adult
in the magical metamorphosis
of a Monarch butterfly
from an ugly caterpillar to
beautiful chrysalis to an
or the changing of a
into a land-dwelling frog,
in a colorful, aromatic and
in Michelangelo’s sculpting
out of a block of marble,
in Beethoven’s and Mozart’s
abilities to write whole
in their minds
before putting them on
and in people,
especially in the work of
who says simply of her work
with the poor and sick:
“It is His work.
I am like a little pencil
in his hand. That is all.
He does the thinking.
He does the writing.
The pencil has
nothing to do with it.
The pencil has only
to be allowed to be used.”
Among the thousands of examples that can be cited that
testify to the existence of a Supreme Being, the one
I like best is
the special gift we received that evolution cannot account
for: our Sense of Beauty. Thank you, God!
January 23, 2011 Sunday Evening
Two words or concepts that boggled
my mind and eluded my understanding for many many years, are
God and Soul.
Writing the book, God, Where Are You? required
me to do a lot of researching and thinking, and by the time
I finished the book, I felt comfortable with my conclusions
re the existence of a Supreme Being I refer to as my
Creator or God. [For more, scroll down to my
entry on January 2, 2011.]
Equally elusive was the concept of
a Soul. For years I thought it was my personality,
but after reading The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav
and How to Know God by Deepak Chopra, I believe I now
understand what the Soul is. To my mind it is the
Creative Spirit [God?] within me that craves
fulfillment, and the way to fulfill its demands are by my
engaging in every kind of activity that has Redeeming
Value. For example, when I watch a movie or TV show, I
want to feel better or have learned something that makes me
feel better when it's over than I felt when I began watching
them. I refuse to watch action computer-generated movies,
like Avatar, Batman or The Spider. I
recall two movies I actually walked out of and demanded my
money back - Australia and Anger Management.
The following is a take-off on the
My Soul is my
Master, I shall not want;
it makes me lie down in green
It leads me beside still
waters; it restores me.
It leads me in paths of
for His name’s sake.
Even though I walk through
the valley of Death,
I fear no Evil; for it
It is my rod and my staff,
which give me comfort.
My Soul prepares a table
in the presence of my
it anointest my forehead with
my cup overflows from its
Surely goodness and mercy
shall follow me
all the days of my life;
and I shall dwell
in the house of the Lord
I am now enjoying the kind of
Peace of Mind that comes with feeling that my Soul
is satisfied with my current way of life. Up until the time
wife May came into my life, there was a niche that
needed to be filled, and I thank God for filling the
niche by bringing her to me. I've never been happier, and I
am deeply appreciative of the many blessings He has
bestowed upon me. Amen.
January 22, 2011 Friday Afternoon
IS AGE IS JUST A
April 29th I will hit the big Nine-O, and I want to
share some thoughts with fellow old timers, as well as Baby
Boomers who are on the verge of joining the club. The title
of the book, Age Is Just a Number grabbed my
attention immediately since it mirrored my own thinking, and
motivated me to write this article as a “public service.”
old maxim, “a sound mind in a sound body,” has guided me all
of my adult life, as did this observation from St. Paul: “Do
you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit
within you, which you have from God? ... So glorify God in
your body.” Many years ago, Dizzy Dean a great baseball
pitcher, said, “It’s not bragging if you can do it.” So,
have a physical and mental regimen has worked well for me
and still does. I read about one non-fiction thoughtful book
a week, especially any book that has the word “God” in its
title, like Gerald Schroeder’s The Hidden Face of God
and Deepak Chopra’s How to Know God. I’ve written
and published four books after turning 80: Words of
Wisdom Through the Ages,
Diary of a Dying Man and God’s Greatest Gifts.
Just a few months ago, I finished writing a 120 page movie
script based mainly on the second one. It’s titled: True
Love Never Dies [registered and copyrighted] and
incorporates the following themes:
Up to a
certain point, age is just a number.
creative seed can sprout and blossom, even in old age.
strive for and maintain a sound mind in a sound body.
one spouse will die first. A how-to on dealing with grief
for children about the realities of life.
ability to love and wanting to be loved endures till the
just as important as any one else in the world.
what you give.
allow anyone to thwart you in your drive toward
Life is a
precious invaluable and mysterious gift; treasure and
nurture it by engaging in Soul-Satisfying activities.
more motivating than a taste of success; nothing is deadlier
than constant failure, as school drop-outs well know.
Lie to me
once and I will never believe you again.
big and small, are merely learning experiences. Mistakes
made in a game, like basketball, do not necessarily
determine the outcome of the game.
useless to worry or have regrets. Both are
more important than things.
and emotions, like love, compassion and a sense of awe about
being alive in a vast and mysterious Universe are the true
reality; all else, by comparison, is of no consequence.
heartless, soulless Humanoids, masquerading as human
beings who, like Frankenstein’s monster, lacks the greatest
of all human qualities: love and compassion. They are
cold-blooded serial killers, military war-mongers, and
ruthless corporate CEO’s who couldn’t care less about your
let things happen to you; make things happen.
like a racquetball game. If you want to experience the
thrill of victory, give it your very best shot and never
give up till the game is over.
appreciate heaven, you must experience a certain amount of
suddenly lost my wife, Babs, of 57 years in 2003 who was
killed by a second chemo treatment at our local hospital,
Bert Fish Medical Center, that I believe, should not have
grief and loneliness I endured put me to the greatest test
of my life. It is common knowledge that loneliness is a
killer, and after mourning my loss and predicament for
months, I decided life was too precious to squander in
self-pity, and decided to be all that I can be while I was
physically and mentally capable of taking full charge of my
remaining few years, living it to the fullest.
give much of the credit for my mental condition to following
a regimen that has kept me as physically fit as a person my
age can be. I have played racquetball since 1979 and
believe the adage you are what you eat. In 1990, I
underwent an angioplasty procedure and I vowed then to
completely change my diet. No bacon, no “store-bought”
hamburgers; no sausage and no hot dogs. Wife May and I get
most of our protein from eating broiled fish and chicken. I
control my weight as strictly as I control my diet, and as a
consequence, I take no pills, not even vitamins. And, knock
on wood, at the moment, I have no serious physical ailments
that I am aware of.
always ask myself, does what I am doing have “redeeming
value?” I see very little of it in today’s movies or in most
TV programs. Where I do find “redeeming value” is in the
creative act of writing, which anyone can do, especially
with the aid of a computer’s word processing program. If you
are at wit’s end wondering what to write about, may I
suggest you write your family’s history for the edification
of your descendants and the personal satisfaction you will
gain in achieving a “touch of immortality.”
have no fear of Death. I am satisfied with the way I
have spent God’s wonder-filled gift of life. Arrivederci!
sons and daughters
who’ve known me
Nor do I
Why I was
I lived in
killed by cars,
At times I
January 21, 2011 Thursday 10 p.m.
Here is a song I wrote for my copyrighted screenplay
True Love Never Dies:
TRUE LOVE NEVER
There are treasures on earth
that are hidden from view,
like the air’s clear vapors
that turn into dew.
We struggle and sweat
this cruel world to survive,
not one of us here now,
will long be alive.
But we will never give up
Life’s too precious to leave,
We’ll keep right on searching
He will help us believe.
I looked the world over
Wandering for years
Finding nothing but grief
and shed lots of tears.
I sought self-fulfillment
In all the wrong places,
My biggest mistakes
Were all pretty faces.
I asked myself often
“What good is success?
and the fast cars I have,
or even the way that I dress.”
Is this all there is?
Just baubles and paint,
False boobs and eyelashes,
Would test any saint.
Then suddenly it came clear,
When my heart nearly stopped,
I searched the wrong places,
Till my heart nearly popped.
The things that I sought
Are blind to our eyes,
Till I finally found
True love never dies.
Wife May and I are enjoying
every moment of togetherness. How great it is to have a
truly compatible companion to watch good movies with, while
holding hands, as we've done for the past few evenings. Had
it not been for her suggestion and motivation, I would
never have even dreamed of writing a screenplay. I have
entered three scriptwriting contests so far, and even if I
fail to compete successfully, I have thoroughly enjoyed the
trip and watch movies in a new light and a much greater
appreciation of the skills involved in writing screenplays
and producing movies. Then too, what else has a man my age
got to do? Oh yes, play racquetball, which I did this
morning for a couple of hours.
I tend to engage in exercises in futility,
like last night I sent this email to Jay Leno:
Dear Jay: I enjoy watching your show practically every
evening, but I take exception to your jokes re "old people"
like Larry King and Sen. John McCain. I am one of the "old
people" who will turn 90 next April and I would like to
challenge you to a 3-game racquetball match to teach you
that some of us "old people" still got it!
January 20, 2011 Friday 10:28 a.m.
Princess here. It is kind of a rainy day and we
enjoy that because the distractions of the beautiful sunny
vistas that want to draw us away from chores and creative
pursuits is not as appealing. I am going to make some pillow
cases today with Sunbonnet Sue appliqués. Frank and I
have been watching a great deal of foreign films with
English subtitles lately. This is a good way to pick
up other languages. However, last night we watched
"Temple Grandin". It was an incredible performance by
all of the actors and actresses about an even more
incredible individual. We both highly recommend you
see this movie.
January 20, 2011 Thursday Midnight
I am embedded in your brain,
your thinking machine,
the exact location,
being your nerve cells.
But other places
are my hosts,
I directed the stem cells,
that made you.
Your eyes and your ears;
and your memories,
are my creations.
are all of “your”
You are not the author,
and your televisions;
and your cities,
are my doing.
Some call me wisdom;
Some call me knowledge;
or that I’m the
contained in your genes.
I must readily confess,
I am not who people think I
for like the Wizard of Oz,
I am God
behind the curtain.
Copyright: Francis T. Sganga 2011
January 18, 2011 Tuesday 11 p.m.
Overdid the racquetball playing
this afternoon; sore as hell, but it's worth it physically
and psychologically. It'd great when a top player 40 years
younger tells me, "You inspire all of us being able to play
so competitively at your age." They can't believe I will be
90 next April - and neither can I.
One of the things I like to do is
ask them far-out questions, like I did the other day when I
asked a guy, "Tell me, ole buddy, why do you exist?"
It invariably bamboozles them, and it's fun to watch them
grope for an answer. Well, I thought I would help them with
WHY DO I EXIST?
but I know not why,
and sought answers
didn’t know either.
So, let’s consider
some possible reasons
that may or not
The fact that I exist
is a wonderment
and reason enough.
But there are more,
I just love being
Luckily, for me
joys exceed sorrows
and I constantly
to all my tomorrows...
When I am able to behold
my wife’s smiling eyes,
and the children I created,
and cradled in my arms.
Then there’s the beauty
to be found
in rainbows and flowers,
in the arts we created
that send chills up our
Life is good!
Being nothing but dust,
can hardly compete
with the joy
that can only be felt
when the dust becomes us.
But best of all are the times
with my one true love,
a feeling that could only
from God up above.
sweet it is!
January 17, 2011 Monday Evening
In the January-February issue of the AARP [American
Association of Retired People] Bulletin, an article
titled: The REAL Fountain of Youth, says that
“Exercising regularly during middle age and beyond is an
enormously effective way to promote just the sort of old
age Baby Boomers dream about.
Independence, robustness and freedom from disease or
Dr. James Fries, MD of Stanford University and
expert on aging says: “If you were to pick one thing
that comes closest to the fountain of youth, then it
would have to be exercise.”
Exercise maintains healthy blood vessels for good
circulation in the body and the brain. It also helps
people manage their weight and cope with stress. And
exercise stems age-related losses in bone density and
muscle mass while it keeps the heart and lungs strong.
The bottom line, reflected in dozens of scientific
studies, that people who exercise, on average, live
longer than those who don’t, with a reduced chance of
heart disease, stroke, type 2 diabetes, colon and breast
cancers, depression, falls and even mental decline.
I am a prime example of what the article is talking
about. I am very independent, even while married to a great
woman who makes a major contribution to my sense of
well-being. She is not only compassionate, loving and a
wonderful companion, she also motivates me to do things I
never would have done without her – like write a screenplay
and starting the novel I have just begun working on. She is
frosting on my cake. All this on top of writing four books
after turning 80.
I have exercised practically all of my life. I jogged
for many years, lifted weights, played handball from the
time I was 13, and switched to racquetball in 1984, which I
still play three times a week. I keep a handgrip and 10
pound dumb bells in both vehicles and use them as I drive to
do “curls and presses.” Why waste time just sitting there
hanging onto the steering wheel? Even in my two-story home,
which has 16 steps between floors.
I will climb them 5 times or more in a row to strengthen my
legs, my back and my lungs. And, come good weather, I will
resume ½ hour workouts in my pool.
Some 20 years ago I had two angioplasties [balloon jobs
in coronary arteries to unclog them] and thought the
writing was on the wall re my longevity based on the
fact that pipes in plumbing just keep accumulating crust as
the age. Not so. I will be 90 next April and despite the
fact that I am supposed to have angina, I experience no
symptoms of a heart problem at all. I have asked several
doctors about a heart generating new capillaries via
exercise, and they agreed that was the case.
After my angioplasties, I vowed to alter my diet. No
more bacon, sausage, “cold cuts” hamburgers, hot dogs,
French fries or fried food. When my cardiologist recommended
I take Zocor to lower my bad cholesterol count, I began it
for a few days then quit after reading the side effects
[possible irreversible muscle damage] and “not feeling
right.” I later told doc that I would do three things to try
to accomplish his goal: 1. Strict weight control [at 5 ft. 6
in. I keep my weight between 155 and 160 lbs.] 2. A strict
healthy diet 3. Exercise like my life depended on it, and
It worked!! Right now, I take no pills – NONE of
any kind, not even vitamins. My blood pressure averages
about 110/60; a recent colonoscopy gave my colon a clean
bill of health and, at the moment, as far as I know, I am
free of any disease or disability.
I am a strong proponent of having a sound mind in
a sound body. In a sense, they are ONE, like
a happily married couple. One metaphor I am fond of using is
that you can’t have a painting without paint.
Another is that mind and body are two sides of the
I was a teacher for 33 years with a strong desire to
help others be all that they can be. As you can see, I am
still doing it!
January 16, 2011 Sunday Noon
Attended Sunday service this
morning. The Preacher's sermons this month
are based upon the general topic of "ethics."
emphasizing the importance of being "humble" and "loving thy
neighbor no matter what." He cited Martin Luther King;
Mahatma Gandhi and Mandela of South Africa as examples of
the power of the "non-resistance" approach to dealing with
your enemies; that bad dudes who are intent to do you harm
and even those that do, should be "loved"; that violence
begets violence; hence, the best approach to it is to
counter it with "love."
I passed a note to wife May
saying it wouldn't have worked with Hitler, Stalin or serial
killers like Ted Bundy and Stano
who brutally murdered dozens of young, innocent women. And
what about the Revolutionary War, the attack on Pearl Harbor
and the 9/11 terrorist attack? How do you mollify the
Revolutionary War-era British, the Japanese who bombed Pearl
Harbor and others?
Like I told wife May
on the way home, if a mugger threatened her in my presence,
he would have to get past me!!! I believe
that how we react depends upon circumstances.
Generalizations, like Jesus telling us to "turn the other
cheek" don't work in every instance. If you slap my face or
spit at it, you better duck! Being a wimp in the face of
potential abuse, is self-destructive.
Like philosopher Edmund Burke said many years ago, "Evil
thrives when good stands idly by." I'll drink to that!!
January 12, 2011 Thursday 11:00 p.m.
Princess here. I have been doing a little early spring
cleaning and you guess it --- redecorating. Little
touches to show that Spring is coming - like the new table
cover for a table in the grand foyer. Today Frank
surprised me good. While I was sewing upstairs, he was
downstairs and the aromas coming from the kitchen were
magical. He wouldn't let me see what he was doing.
After we got back from racquetball, and had supper, he
served me a big piece of the "Mother of all pies" - his own
spin on sweet potato pie with a little whipped topping.
He's got himself a winner with that recipe! Deal of the day
at the Super Wal-Mart today in Ormond Beach: two
pounds of jumbo shrimp for $10.99 (while they last). I
can't wait until Wal-Mart builds their new Superstore just
down the road a few miles.
We saw "Dinner for Schmucks" tonight with Steve Carrell.
(We enjoy using the Netflix service to have our DVD's sent
to us on request). We were sure to be heard howling laughing
if you walked by our house. It's good to laugh!
January 10, 2011 Monday 4 p.m.
This is a scene from my screenplay:
RON - CONTINUOUS
I, I… had
a hard time sleeping last night.
me up and I was listening to Him.
He had a
message for me to give to you.
your ears. Do you hear me? I said
Not everybody will get something
this but some will. Say, “God has a
for me today!”...
Congregation shouts with enthusiasm.
“God has a
message for me today.”
has a message for me today to pass
on to you.
He wants you to understand the
meaning of the word “revelation,” as
to the Kingdom of God...
a small pad and pen out of his back pocket; he is poised to
checked the definition in the dictionary
and it says revelation is the revealing
something that has been hidden....
scribbles on his pad, Marilyn leans over to see what he is
writing. He puts his hand over what he wrote:
I have something in my pocket that will explain
Biblical meaning of revelation. Not only that, it’s also an
example of one of the many miracles in life that are hidden
from our view...
preacher removes a small item from his pocket; holds it up
between two fingers; congregation stares trying to identify
seen lots of these before, and you’ve even eaten them. It’s
a seed very much like millions of other different seeds that
are born every day. This one is a lima bean seed.
to a deacon who hands a lima bean to each congregation
do this together. Peel off the
the lima bean....
off the cover enclosing the two cotyledons inside.
bean has two halves. Split them apart. What do you see
inside? See that tiny little thing nestled between the two
the congregation murmurs in agreement; some have to have the
embryo pointed out to them by a neighbor.
you are looking at is an unborn baby lima bean – an embryo
that is patiently waiting for its chance to
world so it can produce other lima beans just like itself.
The miracle is that it is alive, yet not alive. Somewhere
inside that embryo
hidden spark of life....
notes. Marilyn lean over to read what he wrote. This time he
passes the notepad to her. She reads it and nods in
...Imagine! There’s life inside that embryo just waiting
patiently to be awakened. Where did that spark of life come
from? Who but God can be the source? How can that life be
manifested? Easy. Just plant the seed in some moist soil
and, in just a matter of days, you will behold the new-born,
living seedling emerging joyfully from the soil.
Congregation murmurs, impressed. A baby starts crying.
Mother tries to hush it up.
all right Mrs. Clark. He’s just telling me I’m talking too
much. So, I’ll end with this final thought:
of life is not the only
inside the seed you are now holding. There are also
different parts of the plant,
the stem, roots, leaves and the pods containing a new batch
of lima bean seeds.
instructions are in that seed, say it: Instructions are in
that seed ...
Instructions are in that seed.
instructions are in that seed, just as there are
instructions in the seeds that make up all of the parts of
you and me. There are different instructions for making
eyes, ears, brains and hearts. Where in the world did the
instructions come from? You can’t build a house without
instructions. You need an architect to supply those.
all know that scientists have finally discovered where the
instructions for building plants and animals come from.
They’re in our DNA and our stem cells.
is a prime example of a revelation. Scientists have revealed
something that has been hidden for billions of years. But,
far from being the end of the story. Where did the
instructions in our DNA come from?
question is asked in Job 38: “Who hath put wisdom in the
answer, dear friends, is in the one hundred thirty-ninth
Psalm: “For thou didst form my inward parts, thou didst knit
me together in my mother’s womb.”
And so my
friends, this will conclude with a simple question: Where
else can the instructions come from but from God?”
us right there in Genesis: In the beginning was the
Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
all of you. I hope to see you here again next Sunday.
January 9, 2011 Sunday 10 p.m.
May and I attended church services
at the Coronado Methodist Church at 11 a.m., and will
probably make it our church of choice. They had a kind of
church mini-fair where they displayed the many social
activities they sponsored. I was impressed,
especially by the one where some 12 members were soon to go
to Guatemala to try to better the lives of its
poverty-stricken inhabitants. May will be joining a quilting
group of ladies, and I approached a table where you could
sign up to tutor students a couple of days a week. I asked
the gentleman if some of the kids needed help in Algebra, my
strong suit, and his face lit up as he handed me a sheet of
paper to write my name and phone number.
After I did, he said they would do
a background check on me and I immediately scratched my name
off the list. I figured I would not be eligible since I
spent some time in jail after the bloody fight I had with my
second wife, which I explained to the gentleman. I believe
she not only tried to poison me over a period of a year, but
also tried to smother me during our bloody fight by flooring
me and plopping her ample body with her ample boobs, on top
of me . She was 5 ft. 10 in., over 200 lbs., had classes in
martial arts with my daughter, and was only 56 years old. I,
in contrast, was just 5 ft. 7 in., 155 lbs. and 86 years
old. Fortuitously, I grabbed her hair, pulled her off of me,
and when she wouldn't quit punching me, I luckily found and
grabbed hold of a metal doorstop that I hit her head with to
subdue her. The first blow to her head didn't do the job,
but the second harder one did. We were both covered with her
blood as a result, arrested, cuffed and hauled off to jail.
That was just 3 years ago. Since it was a "he-said;
she-said" situation, neither of us went to trial.
January 7, 2011 Friday 11 p.m.
May and I watched a great movie
tonight titled Joshua (A story about the second
coming of Christ). Great script and great acting.
What was special about it was that we watched it
together holding hands and commenting on some of the
great scenes. It's such a joy sharing my life with her. One
of my goals is to take her to Rome, Florence and Venice.
I've been to Italy three times and would love to share
a fourth trip with her. Sharing. How much more bountiful
life is when you have someone you love, to share it with!
Health Advice: Love
Isn’t All You Need, but It Sure Helps
Albany Times Union
Experts say something as little
as a little love can provide real benefits to the
improvement of your health. Research indicates that love and
positive relationships impact health and well-being in a
A study done at Albert Einstein
Medical College in N.Y. looked at the brains of college
students who were newly in love. When the subjects viewed
pictures of their love interests while under an MRI scanner,
a section of their brain called the ventral tegmental became
activated. The area produces dopamine – a powerful
neurotransmitter that affects pleasure and motivation. The
more dopamine, the more of a high one feels.
The MacArthur Study of
Successful aging found that adults aged 70-79 who felt they
were useful to their family and friends were less likely to
suffer from chronic illness and had lower mortality rates.
A Chicago-based study found
that the higher a person rated their feelings of loneliness,
the more likely they were to develop cognitive problems,
with the loneliest twice as likely to develop Alzheimer’s
The Mayo clinic Statistics show
that happily married people live longer than singles and
have lower rates of diseases, including cancer and heart
failure. Not only did increased levels of happiness
significantly improve longevity, but these couples, acting
as a team also became better equipped to defray the
stressors in life that are be detrimental to your health.
You don’t need to be married to
reap the health benefits of love. Other research shows that
physical affection between loving partners, parents
and children, and close friends can help the brain, heart
and other body systems.
Kathleen Light of the University of N.C. at Chapel Hill is
studying oxytocin, a hormone that stimulates dopamine to
make us feel good when we’re close to loved ones. It also
lowers stress hormones, reduces blood pressure, improves
mood, increases pain tolerance and might help wounds heal
faster. Dr. Light has found that people in positive
relationships have high levels of oxytocin and the more
physical contact one has, the more the levels seem to
Research suggests that the more
love and affection you give and receive, the healthier you
will be. Dr. Light recommends that:
Couples should make an effort to have as
much physical contact as
possible to increase
To increase your sense of belonging and
friendship, meet new
people. Join a gym, a club,
be a volunteer.
Always maintain a positive attitude.
Put a lot of fun into your life. Don’t take
life too seriously.
January 6, 2011 Thursday 10:51 P.M.
Princess here. It was kind of a lazy day today.
I made a coverlet for the guest bedroom and finished one
matching curtain panel for the window treatment. I
just couldn't get moving and doing like I usually do.
I managed to have two heaping dishfuls of brownie and ice
cream though. No excuses. Tomorrow is another
day! Big sale on chicken at the Save-a-Lot!
Frank got boneless trimmed chicken breasts for only
$1.49 a pound. What a buy! Looking at our
pantry and freezer we easily have enough food to not have to
shop for a month.
I know it is boring everybody, but I just have to keep
saying over and over how happy I am down here. We
divide up our chores and keep saying to each other, "What a
team!" I am looking forward to my friend of 50 years
and her husband to come down here in the next two weeks to
stay with us. She will love it here as much as I do I
think. I want to take them to the extraordinary New
Smyrna Beach. Words cannot describe the scope, beauty
and magnitude of its silver sands. They will love
seeing all the wild egrets, pelicans, dolphins etc. native
to our area. There is always something blooming ---
our roses bloom all year around and exotic and unusual
flowers display themselves in neighborhood yards and along
the country roadsides. This truly is a paradise!
January 5, 2011 Wednesday : 9 p.m.
From my book God, Where Are You?
1. The creation of the Universe
2. The creation of Life
3. The creation of Human Beings
4. The creation of Minds
5. The creation of Hands
6. The creation of Love
7. The creation of Languages
8. The creation of Music and the Arts
9. The creation of Laughter
10. The creation of our Sense of Beauty and Reverence for
January 5, 2011: Tuesday: 11:00 p.m.
Princess here. Frank and I are working online side by
side. I am on the PC and he is on the laptop. I
redecorated the kitchen windows today with curtains I made
using some very special printed fabric imported from
Europe that perfectly matches and coordinates with our slate
topped round breakfast table, the birch cabinets, the
Italian tile flooring and the paint job of the kitchen, the
hall leading into the kitchen and the paint in the dining
room. Amazing! Frank had a good day playing
racquetball while I stayed home and cooked a special pork,
potato and Bavarian sauerkraut entree, as well as pecan
brownies which I served with "home-made" (well that was how
it was advertised on the frozen food container) ice
cream and whipped topping. I added a half a can of
crushed pineapple to chocolate chunk brownie mix for added
flavor and texture. This morning was very special.
We drove an unbelievable 20 miles each way (we clocked it)
out to Ponce Inlet on the other side of Daytona Beach.
There is a wide cement walk way that was lined with
fishermen of every size and age that rose above mammoth
rocks - some of them granite. We wondered where they
ever got such rocks from and how they were delivered to this
location. The logistics must have been something.
Then after the rocks arrived, they had to be placed just so.
This simple walkway is an engineering feat! The colors
of the water and the foamy surf were amazing: Sea foam
greens, slate blues etc. etc. Next time I bring my
paints and art supplies.
January 2, 2011: Sunday: 5 p.m.
An entry for my blog on April 14, 2008:
In the Beginning Was the Word
And the Word was with God, and the Word was God
Words are used to convey
information. One good example: It’s the primary way
students are informed in class by teachers whose job
it is to enhance the intelligence of their listeners.
Another major way is through the media, which includes
books, newspapers, magazines and television. Probably, the
most extensively read book is the Bible. The title
and subtitle of this book are how the Gospel of John begins.
In Proverbs these three other related words can found:
Wisdom, insight and understanding.
Some outstanding scientists believe that intelligence
[information/wisdom] preceded the Big Bang, that
intelligence came first. Deepak Chopra, the Indian-born
medical doctor who has written more than 40 books that were
translated into 35 languages, has this to say on the first
page of his book, How to Know God:
Everything that we experience as material
reality is born in an invisible
realm beyond space and time, a realm revealed by
science to consist of
energy and information. This invisible
source of all that exists is not an
empty void but the womb of creation itself.
Something creates and organizes this
energy. It turns the chaos of quantum soup into
stars, galaxies, rain forests, human
beings, and our own thoughts, emotions,
memories, and desires.[Underlings mine.]
I interpret this invisible source of all that exists
as being God [or Allah or Jehovah]. I
also equate God with primal energy,
intelligence and information, from which
material reality is born. Energy, intelligence and
information, the invisible sources of all that exists are in
the Spiritual realm, the kind of world occupied by
invisible electromagnetic forms of energy such as
electricity, light, cosmic, infra red, and radio waves or
rays. They are invisible, have no form and cannot be
weighed. Other “forces” which scientists cannot yet
explain, and are included in this realm, are magnetism
and gravity. No one knows why a lodestone can
attract and hold a paper clip, nor does anyone understand
why massive objects like our moon and Earth exert a
force or pull on each other that would cause them to collide
if it were not for their motions around each other.
Biological evolution is a
Godless theory that explains the physical changes
in living things that occurred over millions of years that
produced all of the plants and animals that now exist.
However, it does not explain the origin or the
existence of such non-physical aspects of our lives as our
minds, our thoughts, and our feelings.
These are both mysterious and mystical, and are in
the Spiritual realm.
We are both material and
spiritual beings, which are like two sides of the same
coin with the material side being “tails” and
the spiritual side being “heads.” Basically,
our bodies, the physical part of us, are bundles of atoms
enclosed within an envelop of skin that is also made up of
atoms. However, there are a group of unique atoms
amongst all of the other atoms that are grouped together in
an organ called the brain.
Brain atoms can do many marvelous
things that other atoms, like stomach and bone atoms,
apparently can’t do. First and foremost is their ability to
think, which is done by a specialized group of atoms
that make up small living entities [brain cells]
Now, atoms are the building blocks
of our bodies, and all of the many organs, like our hearts,
stomachs and lungs. They are “physical” things, like the
atoms in an iron nail, which are the same iron atoms we have
in our bodies. Similarly, the copper atoms we have in our
bodies are the same as the copper atoms in copper wire and
the zinc atoms in the casing of a battery are the same zinc
atoms we have in our bodies that we need to help blood clot
after being cut.
Are your atoms thinking what my
atoms are thinking? How is it that it that atoms can
I am an 87 year old teacher who
has retired, but has never and will never, quit teaching. At
this very moment, I am teaching a dream class with only one
student in it – you. Now, as the saying goes, “I’ve
been down the road.” So, I am saying to you, beseeching you,
to remember, there’s no point in your “re-inventing the
wheel;” it’s already been done by our forebears, and all we
had to do is take it from there. At 87, I’m sure I am one of
your forebears, and, as your teacher, I want to save you the
trouble of re-inventing the wheel of life, and the many
heartaches that go with it.
Now, first thing first. To my mind
one of the most important things you must do is keep things
in perspective. This means that you look at the big
picture and focus on what it will take to help you get the
most out of you life; to be, as the old Marine slogan went,
all that you can be.
Rule #1: Never, ever, abuse your
body. You must follow the old adage of having a sound
mind in a sound body. This means no smoking, no drugs,
no excessive drinking, eating nutritious food
and working out frequently and
vigorously. One of the most self-satisfying feelings
is to be in great physical shape, which, in turn, will have
a great positive effect upon your mind, the place
where feelings impact your brain. Many studies have shown
that positive feelings and a positive attitude are two key
elements that yield healthy minds as well as healthy bodies.
Like it is said, “Laughter is the best medicine.”
You have two choices when things go
bad: You can either laugh or cry. But keep in mind, that
when you laugh, the world laughs with you, and when you cry,
you cry alone. Nobody wants to be a around a crying
loser. While you may not be able to actually laugh during
troublesome times, you can at least not become distraught
and angry, but concentrate on resolving the difficulty as
best you can. Worrying and grousing about your condition
are counterproductive. They are just barriers to getting the
job done with a minimum
of aggravation and grief. To be truly
content with yourself, and to be able to face the many
problems you now face and will surely face in the future,
you must have a healthy mind in a healthy body. Everything
else is secondary.
Rule #2. Always keep in mind
that you are a one-of-a-kind miracle. You
are a gift from God.
Think of a horse. Now think of the
horse galloping in a meadow, and then think of it jumping
over a fence.
When we get the atoms in our brains
to drum up a picture, it shows that the atoms can do two
weird things that are scientific mysteries. One, they can
store the images in their “memory banks,”
somewhat like putting money in the bank, and two, they can
retrieve the images in what is sometimes called the
mind’s eye, where they are “seen.” But where
are they seen? We sense that our brains are doing the
seeing, but it can get more complicated when we wonder where
our “minds” fit into the picture. Do we think with
our brains or with our minds? What’s the difference? Well,
our brains are flesh and blood, and are therefore
physical things. So, by default,
it’s our minds that see the
pictures we think about, and it’s our minds that do
But hold it! What about the
atoms that make up our bodies and all of the organs they
contain? Are they doing the thinking? Which ones?
Only those in our brains? And is the brain only in
the head? Or does it extend into all other parts of our
bodies, including our fingers and our toes?
There are many mysterious things
going on in our bodies that science has difficulty
explaining. For instance, what is a thought and how
is it that thoughts can be “understood” by organs, such as
hands and feet, when thoughts order them to do things
like point a finger at an object or kick a
football? Keep in mind that a thought is a
non-thing. You can’t see it, feel it or weigh it. In that
respect it’s like the mind. Same thing. They are all really
nothing! [No thing.]
But, my oh my, just think of all the
things that thoughts can do when they are put into
has made was preceded by a thought. A well-known saying is
the “necessity is the mother of invention,” and inventions
are what our minds do when they produce thoughts that turn
into action. The first wheel, the first car, the first
airplane, the first computer, the first air conditioner, the
first TV, were all preceded by inventive thoughts.
Thoughts are in the realm of the
Spirit, where we also find the Soul, God,
intelligence, wisdom, love, compassion
and beauty, which are the side of the coin we call
heads. When you think about it, almost everything has
two sides which is reflected in the saying: You can’t
have one without the other. A gun can be used for
assault as well as for protection; nuclear energy can be use
to devastate cities and to create electricity; hands can be
used to fight with or to produce works of art. You cannot
have a fire [spirit] unless there is something to burn
[physical matter]. You cannot have a beautiful painting
without paint. And so it is with us. As human beings, we
cannot have a Spirit [Soul] without a body.
St. Paul puts it this way:
Do you not know that you body is the temple of your
The unique you and the unique Soul
In a biology class a teacher’s job
is to present the scientific facts, and nothing but the
scientific facts, most of which are in the textbook used.
There is absolutely no mention made of God, religion or
spiritual matters. The book and the lectures are soulless.
To say anything about “miracles” is not allowed. This is
also true in physics, chemistry and astronomy classes where
many people, including myself, think that some of the
subject-matter dealing with the universe and how it works
may be considered to be miraculous.
Re reincarnation: If we were to be
reincarnated, we would not be aware of our previous
existences any more than a butterfly would be aware of the
fact that it once existed as a caterpillar.
WHO IS GOD?
God is intelligence,
which is the source of everything that exists – the stars,
the planets, plants, animals, and us. From that
intelligence also came knowledge, wisdom [insight],
love, compassion, and our sense of beauty.
There’s no point in trying to
define the Creator in any other way, or to ask who
created God. Nobody knows, nor will anyone ever know. It’s
the greatest and most intriguing mystery that
plagues us, and will elude us as long
as we human beings exist. Yet, it is easy to deduce that
there must be a Divine Source that started everything
that came into existence after the Big Bang, so scientists
One example: Think about your body
and its complicated, ingenious parts. By definition it is
basically a machine having a structure consisting of
a framework [a skeleton], and various fixed
parts [skull, teeth], and moving parts
[heart, blood] for doing some kind of work [almost
limitless]. All of the parts were manufactured by a wide
variety of tiny living parts called Stem Cells that
were “born” soon after one of your father’s sperm cells
penetrated your mother’s egg cell. Here are a few examples
of the thousands of parts stem cells built from scratch:
What is not obvious is that all of
the parts of the body listed have sub-parts. To use
but one example, here are the many sub-parts that go into
the making of limbs:
The Engineer [God or
Allah or Jehovah] who designed these joints is
a genius. Not only do these body parts allow us to engage in
all kinds of sports, but they also, in the case of hands,
enable us to build all of the man-made structures and
machines that you can think of, and many that you probably
don’t even know about that are military secrets. And, here’s
something else to think about and marvel at: All of those
things were the result of the combined use of two things –
our minds and our hands!
When I sometimes ask “Where did the
information or directions come from that was
“planted” in the stem cells that manufactured all of our
body parts?”, the reply I usually get is, “DNA.” That’s
true. Human DNA contains the genetic code that produces a
unique human being like you and me. But, from whence did the
DNA get its information? I say, from God, the source
of all information, which may also be referred to as
intelligence. And, like a good teacher, who passes on
his or her intelligence to students, God shares His
intelligence with us.
For many years I have tried to find
an analogy for God, and the best I could come up with
is the form of energy called electromagnetism.
Both magnetism and electricity have mysterious
characteristics [as does an equally
mysterious phenomenon called gravity]. No one knows why a
lodestone attracts iron objects and no one can fully explain
electricity. The two mysterious phenomena, magnetism and
electricity, make our world go round. And, interestingly,
you can produce an electric current by simply moving a bar
magnet inside a coil of copper wire, and when you do,
magnetism is produced around the coil.
The main point is that, like God,
electrical energy is invisible, weightless, and essentially,
a non-thing. Yet, think of all of the things this
non-thing can do! Well, I wonder if would be better to talk
about God-Energy, rather than just God,
because just as electrical energy, a non-thing can do
zillions of things, why could not God-Energy also do
zillions of things, like engineer the development of the
Universe and the millions of creatures here on Earth?
January 1, 2011: Saturday: 8 p.m.
Are We the Product of
Intelligent Design or a Serendipity Accident?
Some Questions for
Atheists, Agnostics, Darwinian Evolutionists and Anti-Intelligent
1. Where did the directions [information.
Intelligence] come from that are embedded in the
stem cells that produce the trillions of
differentiated cells comprising all of the
organs in our bodies, such as eyes, ears,
hearts, kidneys, nervous systems including our
brains, digestive systems, respiratory systems,
multiple glands, circulatory systems, sound-
producing systems, our auto-immune system, our system
for healing wounds, etc. From the
Super Smart Molecules that comprise our
2. Evolution does not create. It is an
electro-chemical, bio-mechanical physical process.
of the information received by our six senses are
carried to our brains via electro-chemical
impulses, and all reactions to the signals are
also produced by electro-chemical impulses
from the brain. [How does a thought move a
All evolution does primarily is alter physical
changes, which over millions of years
changed organisms from single-celled “creatures” to
multi-celled creatures that culminated
in us. Minds evolved along with the evolution of the
organisms that contained them. Where
did the mind in each organism come from in the first
When did love enter of minds? What does in
have to do with survival of the fittest? Why
are we not soulless physically-created
creatures like the monster Dr. Frankenstein created?
3. Mozart composed a minuet at age 6. Where did the
music [intelligence] “he” created come
from? The molecules that comprised the neurons in his
brain? Is it not a miracle the
music that miraculously entered his brain was
transformed into immortal sounds that have
entered our brains hundreds of years later, like
wireless internet waves enter our computers?
4. Why did our
sense of beauty develop? Couldn’t we have evolved
just as well without it?
Cows don’t notice
rainbows. Why do we? Since this sense [information]
is embedded in our brains,
where did it come
5. How do thoughts generated in the mind
electro-chemically produce the intelligible words
that come out of our mouths exactly reflecting our
thinking? Is not the process a miracle?
6. Why is the
act of procreation in humans so ecstatic for most of
us? When did it become so, as we
evolved as primates?
Was it vital to the march of evolution toward the
development of homo sapiens?
7. Our five senses of
taste, touch, sight, hearing and smell were initially used
for survival. Why did all
of them eventually
become sources of pleasure?
8. Where did the
inspiration [information] come from for the uniquely
creative works of art that
poured forth from
Michelangelo, Beethoven and Shakespeare? From their Super
9. The minds of
no other creatures on earth can communicate with each
other like ours can, which is
only possible due to
the creation of specially designed, ingenious organs, like
eyes, ears and “voice
boxes,” that enable
them to do so. “Who” or “what” is the final cause of such an
awesome feat? Did
the plans [information]
come out of thin air and embed themselves in molecules that
were “given” the
“gift of life?”
10. Humans communicate
in thousands of ways and in many spoken languages. Did
the languages [information]?
11. Who, but “God”,
could design and carry out a process, via embedded
information in stem cells
that can change a
fertilized egg the size of a dot [ .
] into a beautiful baby in just 270 days?
12. Our brains contain
minds that control our hands which are able to create
and produce such things
as computers, radios
and TV sets, space ships and huge airplanes, skyscrapers, a
myriad number of
motor vehicles, music
and art, microscopes and telescopes, artificial hearts and
and giant ships, oil refineries and thousands of different
kinds of factories,
All of these things
require a creative-engineering intelligent mind,
construction workers and
materials to produce
Think of the
single fertilized egg cell that eventually
transforms into a human being containing
trillions of different
kinds of cells. Within that single cell must be a mind or
minds that creates and
produce the millions of
parts made up of totally different cells that go into the
creation of a human
being, such as the 200
different bones that make up our skeletons, the hundreds of
attached to them, the
miles and miles of blood vessels that make up the two
different kinds: arteries and
veins, the different kinds
of nerve cells that make up our five senses of smell, sight,
hearing, taste and
touch, a complicated,
ingeniously engineered, heart-pump that can beat billions of
times during one’s
lifetime, a respiratory
system that extracts the oxygen from the air that enables
our trillions of cells to
burn food, thereby
maintaining our body temperatures at 98.6 degrees, the basic
body plan that
assembles all of the
bodies parts in their proper places and in proper numbers,
such as our fingers and
toes, and our ears and
teeth, and so on infinitum.
Do not all of these
things also require a creative-engineering intelligent
mind, construction workers
and materials to produce
them? If so, where did the intelligent mind come
And, think of this: Our
minds are capable of communicating with each other.
Think of the engineering
and the construction of
body parts that enable us to do this, which is only the
beginning because the
body parts also had to be
able to develop a way to send the messages to our brains and
create the cells
that could understand
and remember the messages transmitted from one brain
All I seek is
understanding. The are many mysteries in life that defy
explanation. I’ll never know
I am alive and why I am me and not someone else, and
I’ll never know for sure what will happen to the “me”
after I die. I’ll never understand how something [the
universe] can come from nothing [what preceded the Big
Bang]. Where did the energy come from that caused the
Big Bang? I can’t imagine space going on forever, nor can I
imagine an end to it.
But this I am certain of.
I am no accident of nature. I was designed and
produced by my Creator and given a unique identity,
and the miraculous gifts that enable me to think,
love and sense beauty. Whoever You are [God,
Allah or Jehovah] and wherever You are, I thank
You from the bottom of my heart for the Gift of Life!
I sure wish I knew exactly how and why you did
Anybody who wants to dispute what
I said above can have equal time on this blog.
January 1, 2011 Midnite + 1
What an enjoyable day May and I had
"yesterday." We picked up a roasted chicken at Publix plus a
lot of goodies for a New Year's Eve celebration, including a
bottle of champagne, drove along New Smyrna Beach to the
inlet, took a long walk hand-in-hand, and I helped two
out-of-towners get unstuck from the sand. The common mistake
they tend to make is to spin their wheels in a vain effort
to get the car moving but all that does is cause the wheels
to sink deeper into the sand. I waved my arms at them to
stop spinning their wheels and told them to scoop out the
sand in front of all four wheels until they reached the
lowest point on the tires, and away they went. They were
very appreciative of my help and May and I felt good about
Tonight we watched a motorcycle
fun-movie called Wild Hogs with John Travolta,
the guy who could give an Oscar performance as Tony Civale
in my movie, True Love Never Dies. It will
never happen but it's fun to fantasize now and then. What's
One of the things I treasured most
today was being able to walk hand-in-hand with May along the
beach. When we passed other couples, some also holding
hands, I told her how lonely I felt when I took beach walks
all by myself and saw other couples strolling arm-in-arm.
She sure has brought joy into my life!! The frosting on the
cake is when she laughs heartily at my jokes. Happy
New Year! I'm looking forward to spending it with May as we
both work toward achieving our ambitious goals
and self-fulfillment. .
December 29, 2010 Wednesday 11 p.m.
We watched movies, while holding
hands, three nights in a row and, surprise, surprise, all
three were very enjoyable. Tonight's movie, October
Sky made me realize what an amateur screenwriter I
am. After writing one, you view movies in an entirely
different way. You have a better understanding of the
interplay of characters, you recognize the "turning points"
[important dramatic scenes that change the direction of the
story] and the inclusion of scenes that illustrate the
struggle of the protagonist in trying to achieve his major
goal and how he overcomes the obstacles that thwart him
along the way. Best of all there were no sex scenes, no
violence; no computer-generated car chases or explosions and
a Happy Ending!
What a joy it is having May for my
life-long companion. The separation we experienced a few
weeks ago was the result
of circumstances and misunderstandings. Because of the
traumatic experience and how it could have adversely
affected our lives had we not, with God's help, found each
other again, we have concluded that, no matter what,
we must talk openly about whatever bothers us in our
relationship. It's so easy to misconstrue what someone
says or does, especially when they come from such different
backgrounds as May and I, she from New Hampshire and I from
And then there is that boy/girl
thing, you know, Women are from Venus; men are from Mars,
like this quote illustrates:
How do you please a woman?
Love her, die for her,
take her to dinner,
miss the Super Bowl for her,
buy her jewelry,
pretend you’re interested
in what she has to say.
How do you please a man?
Show up nude, bring beer.
December 28, 2010 10:56 p.m.
Princess here. We have been enjoying using the New
Smyrna Beach Library to borrow magazines, books and movie
DVD's. The choice of selection as well as service
there by volunteers and employees is of the highest caliber.
Yesterday we very much enjoyed watching "The Fisher King"
with Robin Williams and Jeff Bridges. This is a MUST
SEE movie that is so unusual it is indescribable - but it is
also romantic and sort of like a modern day fairy tale.
Tonight we watched "The House Bunny". We truly enjoyed
this movie much to our surprise. It was just a good
old-fashioned mindless romp that had us howling with
laughter all the way through. I cannot tell you how
much I appreciate Frank's companionship. By the way we
have started a sequel movie script. Frank said. "I
might be 95 when I finish it". I said, "And who is
going to stop you?...." By the way, he and his various
partners won all three racquetball games that he and they
December 26, 2010 4:14 p.m.
Princess here. Spending a wonderful day at home enjoying
each other's company. I've been making a garment for
myself in between puttering around the house and playing on
Facebook. Frank has been making sure all the bushes
are protected from the cold spell we are experiencing and
enjoying watching a thrilling football match between the
Washington Redskins and the Jacksonville Jaguars.
Christmas eve we had a pizza birthday party here and enjoyed
a new Pizza Hut pizza that had little bites of dough and
mozzarella on the outside of the huge pepperoni pizza.
Yesterday morning we had another birthday/Christmas
get-together and I was so happy to see Laura here and got a
chance to talk to Clare over the telephone. Last
evening we enjoyed hosting a fun group of people as our
guests for a dinner party that featured "the mother of
all lasagnas" with all the trimmings, and afterwards
entertainment included pool and Mexican dominos.
It was a full and wonderful Christmas for us and we both
sincerely hope that yours was too.
December 21, 2010 Tuesday 9 p.m.
Are you comfortable
with the concept you have of "God?" Do you ever
really give the concept much thought? I contemplated the
concept in this book I wrote in 1984:
I've read many books
since then about finding God, but my concept of a
Supreme Being has not changed by reading them. In
fact, it has been fortified. The picture on the cover above
is me. [I know, I should say "I" not me, but I prefer the
vernacular "me"] The message I tried to convey in the
picture is that, in in concrete jungles, we call "cities,"
it is difficult to even think about let alone find, God. I
because I spent the first 22 years of my life
in the polluted city of Brooklyn in N.Y. One of my memories
is that of sparrows, on very cold days, picking seeds
out of steaming horse manure soon after it hit the ground.
Back then ice, vegetables and milk were delivered in
So, where do
you find God? Listen up:
Garden of the
Gods in Colorado
Nature is the living, visible
garment of God.
The heavens declare
the glory of God;
and the firmament
showeth His handiwork.
Who taught the parrot
Who taught the raven
in a drought to throw pebbles
into a hollow tree
where she espied water,
that the water might rise
so as she might come to it?
Who taught the bee to sail
such a vast sea of air,
and to find the way
from a flower in a field to
Who taught the ant
to bite every grain of corn
that she buried in her hill,
it should take root and grow?
the time vesture of God
that reveals Him to the wise,
and hides Him from the foolish.
I believe in God
only I spell it Nature.
Never lose an opportunity
of seeing anything
that is beautiful; for
a wayside sacrament.
Welcome it in every fair
in every fair sky,
in every fair flower,
and thank God for it
a cup of blessing.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
God's handiwork and Music is one of the ways
He speaks to us, Soul to Soul. No movie, no
church service or no social partying is without music.
Beside life, it is one of God's greatest gifts to us, as is
our sense of beauty.
wish you a Merry Christmas and a New Year filled with love
December 18, 2010, 9:04 p.m.
Princess here. Brownies are in the oven
and the aroma is divine. See these "kids"
above....their smiles are even brighter and happier today
than they were on their wedding day (picture shown).
Around here, we served each other a double portion of
"graceroni" this week. Frank claims the weather warmed
up and the flocks of birds came back just as I
arrived. We visited the beach this week. I wore
my winter coat (down-lined) and was surprised that the
temperatures were down-right balmy and in the 70's (off came
the coat!). It was 17 degrees (not taking into
consideration the wind-chill factor) when I left NH this
Tonight we gave Paul an early Christmas
present - his own cell phone. We activated it for him.
He is looking forward to calling his sisters, brother and
their families, as well as his many friends.
December 17, 2010 Friday 7:26 p.m.
Princess here. A Facebook friend Anna
Marinova posted this on a Facebook web page called "Change
the world and make you better!" on November 7, 2010 at 7:32
p.m. Every day I will take these words to heart.
The Art of Marriage
Wilferd A. Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things...
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship
should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue
through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of
duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating
gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a
sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence
is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.
Adriaan Rainso Botha
December 16, 2010 Thursday 10 p.m.
Heaven! I'm in
heaven, and my heart beats so that I can hardly speak, when
May and I are dancing cheek to cheek. Picked up my bride
yesterday at the airport in Daytona, and we're off to a
brand new, wonderful start of what I know will be a
long-lasting loving relationship. We have wiped the slate
clean and are on our second honeymoon. Thank you God for
bringing us together again, especially at this time of the
year when the words "merry" and "happy" are repeated over
and over again, as we wish each other a Merry Christmas and
a Happy New Year, as May and I are now doing to you.
Frank and May
December 13, 2010 Monday 5 p.m.
Good things are
happening, the main one being the imminent arrival, later
this week, of wife May
who will call me tonight re the specific time
of her flight to Daytona Beach. I'm really
looking forward to our re-union. How sweet it will be to
once again hold a woman in my arms.
The other "good
thing, " that remains to be seen, is that I mailed my
screenplay to two sponsors of contests this morning. One is
www.Scriptapalooza.com ; the other is at
It may turn out to be a wild goose chase, but even if so,
the amount of money involved is less than eating out and
going to a movie, neither of which I do anyway. The former
company will provide me with a professional critique of the
script, which is something I need - an outsider to verify
what a great movie it will be! The main thing against it is
that, like myself, it's a counter-American-culture thing, a
genuine family movie that contains no blatant sex
scenes, no explosions, no guns, no computer graphics and no
I read Eckhart's
The Power of Now, where he says, NOW is
where it's at. That dwelling on the past or future is not. I
went along with the idea, but have since changed my
thinking, which right now is that it's the future
that is what keeps us going - that Stubborn Seed of Hope
for better things to come. I also find that not thinking
about the past, for me, is impossible.
December 10, 2010 Thursday 9
I just got an
early Christmas present that could not please me more. May
[Locke Sganga] just called
and will spend the holidays, and thereafter,